Until my dying day I will never understand a person who jumps into an affair with a preconceived timeline in place. Honestly, he never mentioned it when we started. If I could advise anyone who's considering an extramarital affair, set the ground rules BEFORE anything starts.
May 4, 2009
Debbie, you don't play the second fiddle worth a dam. Lots of sour notes.
Your "sourcasm" was noticed btw! Drives me nuts.
May 7, 2009
My dear Debbie. I hate to see you beating yourself up over the lack of emails or the change in content in those emails. You are way over analyzing the situation. I won't deny that the emails and the frequency we are seeing each other has changed quite a bit. Your coming to my house had absolutely nothing to do with it. Purely coincidental. I still want to talk to you and discuss the logistics of our meetings down the road. You know for the first two and one half months of this year we saw each other twice a week at ball games. Don't you think that helped to ease the need to arrange meetings elsewhere?
May 12, 2009
Hey buttercup, thanks for the wet spot in my underwear. You sure are perky today!
May 14, 2009
I'll mow tonight even though the ground is wet. See ya Monday. Hopefully the stars will align and everybody will be where they are supposed to be. Be good and have a good
(The Climax Blues Band - I Love You)
May 19, 2009 (I made the note THE END)
You mentioned that if I wasn't into all of this I should have told you. I think I made it very
Debbie, I mentioned to you about my religious convictions and this is a big part of why I need to make this step. It's also why I can remain your friend. I don't like the feeling of a hypocrite sitting in church taking communion like I'm a model Christian.
Please tell me that sometime down the road that we could take that walk and laugh together. I understand that you may need time to be able to do this.
I want for you to think about something tonight or over the next few days. I won't chastise you for any comments made. I just want you to tell me how you saw us in the future. What would we be doing a year or two from now. How would you have me handle the continued guilt of transgressing against Marni and God. How did you see us continuing to meet and not be caught by family members. And in your mind, how long would we continue before some concluding time. I'm all ears.
I'll email you tomorrow if you want to.
Debbie's note . . . let me tell you why I was upset, absolutely, yes I remember. When he got to my house, I was my typical self, thrilled to have him there. He sat on the sofa, I gave him a big hug, purred, "Did you miss me??!" He looked right through me, flatly answering, "I told you not to ask me questions like that!" The coldness of his tone shot right through me. I didn't have enough backbone to stand up and ask him to leave. Honest to God what was WRONG with me!!!?? I let him have sex with me but started crying right in the middle of it. Once it was over, I opened the back door and pointed to it. "No hug?" he said. Again, I just pointed, like the Angel of Death.
The next morning he asked why I seemed distracted the night before, so I told him.
Here is an interesting point to ponder. Now coming from a male it has strange credence. I
I'll attempt to be humorous here so cool your jets. Can I take a sabbatical? That's funny, right?
May 21, 2009
Let me know when you get in and we'll tidy up any thoughts on what we discussed this morning. Are you sure we didn't know each other in another dimension?
Debbie your last email made my heart feel warm and fuzzy. As good as our intimacy has been it's still not as important as our long term friendship. Now I'm not concluding our sex by any means, but it still makes me feel better to hear you say that.
As far as the advice from Cosmo or whatever magazines suggesting total separation, that might be best for most situations, but I don't know how you could make a blanket statement
Hey those numbers you gave me to digest, what was the 364 and 1/2 about? If my intuition is correct you're probably referring to a solar year as opposed to a calendar year. BTW that
I insist on one more thing in the future. Periodically we need to sit down and talk and make sure we're on the same page with each other. Honest communication makes a person feel so much better.
Here is a proposal that's enticing. 1 twelve hour extended episode of sex.
O.K. how about 365 - 2 minute episodes?
Morning darlin. Decided to work today and take Monday off.
What's new with you?
December = Christmas = movies you know, fun activities before break.